Kink Belongs at Pride - But Consensually

Someone asked me recently - knowing what my answer would be, of course, "Does kink belong at Pride? And followed it up with, "To what extent? With what limits?" So of course I decided to write about it. I'm using the term Queer a lot in this one, and in this case I'm using it as an umbrella term to cover folks who are gay, lesbian, trans, bi, pan, poly, kinky, of all different sexualities, of various gender identities... all the colors of all the rainbows. All the people who are part of Pride.

New Class: Fit to be Tied

 

We're working on a new class! Coming soon: Fit to be Tied. It's a class for Rope Bottoms. 

- Preparing to Play - making yourself ready for bottoming in rope

- Playing in a Rope Scene - fully engaging in the rope scene

- Playing with Rope Over Time - managing risk levels and accounting for experience

Presentations now updated

I got to present Making a Scene this past weekend, so I went through and updated the presentation here with the latest slides and a little bit of updated talking points.

Making a Scene

And since I was working on that one, I went ahead and updated Dungeon Essentials, too!

Dungeon Essentials

Consent Openers

- "Can I kiss you?"

- "Do you want me to hold you against the wall?"

- "I'd like to touch your boobs."

- "Can we talk about spanking?"

- "Please do that again."

Fifty Shades of Popular

When Fifty Shades of Grey came out in 2011, it rocketed to the top of all the book lists. A movie came out. More books, more movies. Everyone read it, everybody was talking about it. Not everyone loved it; plenty of people hated it. But they all knew about it.

So it's not surprising that from time to time, as a kink educator and an author, I get asked my opinion about Fifty Shades. I think it's usually expected that I will straight up trash it as a Terrible Thing that exists which I'd like to wipe out. However, I'm not typically one to do something just because it's expected.

Community Essentials with Meronym

 

Just playing around with a few images here that I made for the Facebook Page, and a splash screen that I've added to the end of each presentation.

Play Guides

One of the things I've talked about with other kinky folk lately is 'Play Guides'. Many of us have a writing up on FetLife describing how we play. It's a resource for potential play partners to check out and get a feel for whether they want to talk to you about play. But even better, it's a tool for you, the writer, to examine your play desires. The process of writing things out means a lot of self-examination and definition of what you want out of play as well as what you offer. Because knowing how you play and what motivates you will lead to better play - for you and your partners.