Consent Openers

- "Can I kiss you?"

- "Do you want me to hold you against the wall?"

- "I'd like to touch your boobs."

- "Can we talk about spanking?"

- "Please do that again."

Fifty Shades of Popular

When Fifty Shades of Grey came out in 2011, it rocketed to the top of all the book lists. A movie came out. More books, more movies. Everyone read it, everybody was talking about it. Not everyone loved it; plenty of people hated it. But they all knew about it.

So it's not surprising that from time to time, as a kink educator and an author, I get asked my opinion about Fifty Shades. I think it's usually expected that I will straight up trash it as a Terrible Thing that exists which I'd like to wipe out. However, I'm not typically one to do something just because it's expected.